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338 – Trying Again: Anxiety & Stress during Pregnancy After Loss

Erica Michelle

Below are some coping tips that worked for me on how to Handle the Anxiety, Fear and Stress that comes with Pregnancy After Loss.

Focus on one day at a time. Easier said than done, right?  But I always keep my favorite verse with me that  “All things work together for the good of those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 If God has called you to be a mother especially for you to have another child it will happen, it is his purpose for your life.  I learned to take my pregnancy one day at a time because I celebrated what was good, different, and better about my new pregnancy.  I paid attention to what’s going well each day and how I was feeling and how the baby was moving and healthy.  Remember each pregnancy is different, and the fact that you miscarried, had an infant loss or stillbirth does not mean this pregnancy will end that way.  

Don’t always expect to be happy and joyful all the time – We all have good and bad days when we are not pregnant so don’t expect it to be joyful and happy all the time.  Remind yourself that being pregnant again can be a scary experience.  

Pray 

Journal 

Celebrate Milestones

Take Care of Yourself 

Seek a Therapist, Coach, or Grief Counselor 

442 – Fertile Ground: Navigating Secondary Infertility, Surrogacy, and a Natural Miracle with Quisha Umemba Sisters in Loss Podcast: Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss, & Infertility Stories

"Just when I thought I had exhausted every medical, financial, and emotional option, a miracle took root." In this week's jaw-dropping episode of the Sisters in Loss podcast, we are joined by the remarkable Quisha Umemba. Quisha is a Registered Nurse, Community Health Worker, and a Fertility Doula in training who knows the clinical side of reproductive health inside and out. But today, she is sharing her deeply personal, heavily tested journey to motherhood—a story of cultivating "Fertile Ground" even when all hope seemed lost. Quisha opens up about her grueling five-year battle with secondary infertility. She holds nothing back as she discusses the immense physical, emotional, and financial toll of her journey, which included multiple intense medical procedures and spending close to $100,000. Seeking every available avenue to grow her family, Quisha even navigated the complex processes of utilizing an egg donor and a gestational surrogate. During this exhausting waiting season, Quisha admits she nearly lost her faith entirely. But then, the unimaginable happened: after years of intense medical intervention, she miraculously became pregnant naturally. In this episode, we discuss: The heavy, often silent emotional and financial weight of secondary infertility. Quisha's experience navigating the complex world of egg donation and gestational surrogacy. The profound crisis of faith that can accompany a prolonged season of waiting and loss. The jaw-dropping story of her natural, miraculous pregnancy. How her lived experience is shaping her new path as a Fertility Doula. The profound impact the book Supernatural Childbirth had on restoring her spiritual foundation. If you are currently feeling financially drained, spiritually exhausted, or just need a reminder that miracles still happen when we least expect them, this episode is exactly what you need to hear. Become a Sisters in Loss Birth Bereavement, and Postpartum Doula Here Book Recommendations and Links Below You can shop my Amazon Store or  ​Bookshop.org for the Book Recommendations You can follow Sisters in Loss on Social Join our Black Moms in Loss Online Weekly Grief Support Group Join the Sisters in Loss Online Community Sisters in Loss TV Youtube Channel Sisters in Loss Instagram Sisters in Loss Facebook
  1. 442 – Fertile Ground: Navigating Secondary Infertility, Surrogacy, and a Natural Miracle with Quisha Umemba
  2. 441 – Cultivating Community Bump & Beyond: Maternal Advocacy and Doula Sustainability with Alexia Doumbouya
  3. 440 – Embracing the "No" That Saved My Life: Infertility, IVF, and the Grace of Adoption with Angie Booker
  4. 439 – Surviving Trauma and Miscarriage with Dr. Shayla Élise Walker
  5. 438 – Faces of H.O.P.E.: Surviving PPROM, NICU, and Pregnancy After Loss with Nekia Mba

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